Authentic Life

AUTHENTIC LIFE

            you can be pleasant and very kind,thoughtful,and nice while still being genuine and honest with others.In fact,the most charming people are those who tell you the truth in a loving way. This is the combination for all to aspire to :Being Real,Nice,Loving and Honest.

        Everyone can relate to real human emotions.so when you admit how you really feel, it's a relief to people to know that others feel the same way they do. In this way, by being honest with others, you're being a teacher of how to live an AUTHENTIC LIFE.

       Many people confuse being honest with being aggressive.That's becoz for so many years, the average nice person was passive and silent. But that has all changed thank goodness! These days, it's essential for nice people to speak up about the issues that are near and dear to their hearts.

     For instance, if your child is having difficulty with a teacher, it's very appropriate for you to hold meetings with either that teacher or the principal. this is an example  of you taking action becoz you love your child. You speak up and are honest becoz that's the only the way to protect him or her.

    In personal cases being genuine can bring blessings, too. For example , You and a group of friends go to movie. the movie is awful and you do not want to watch any more. and even your friends do feel same but no one is putting forward their thoughts openly, as they are afraid to say anything and ruin everyone else's time.  and you whisper to the friend next to you " I am not enjoying this movie are you?" Your friend smiles with an  relief that you have put into words exactly how he/she feels.You leave the movie early and go to restaurant and enjoy a nice meal together instead.

   Again , Speaking up doesn't mean  aggression.speaking up simply means that you own your feelings and state them clearly without blaming anyone else and without anger or sarcasm in your statements.

   People-Pleasing is a form of being controlling and MANIPULATIVE. It stems from fear,not from LOVE.People-Pleasing comes from the place of unworthiness  and undeserving feelings. you're convinced that other people won;t like or love you if you show them who you really are.

Remember that you're a creation of God,Made in the image and likeness of the divine creator! everyone and everything that god creates has Divinity and inherent natural beauty and uniqueness.YOU ARE DIVINE!!!

(Above content is from book "Assertiveness for earth angels: How to be Loving instead of 'TOO NICE" by Doreen Virtue " Thanks to her for wonderful book)

God Help Us through People

We all believe .....

That we are praying to the higher source for help and we are not receiving anything but its not the truth. we will be offered help by the people who are around us but  our ego will make us think that, we not capable of doing certain things so we were offered help. No , its totally a misconception of our ego telling us these things.Never allow your ego to come between you are your higher source then you will be able to recognize the help sent.

i had the same misconception until i admitted to allow people to help me. then i understood if i allow people to help me complete my task then i can help others in their's, as i will be having time to do so.  

Now also i do accept or allow other people to help me so that i have more time to do the same for other, those who need it. i never feel taking help means i am incapable of doing it myself. No not all i have more time to do other things which may serve other as well as me.

Thank You for the help you sent me lord when i needed it most. i gracefully accepted it and will accept it in future so that i do get a chance to help other.

He will answer your prayer ,may be sooner or later, but later you will surely realize why he answered it later or sooner.

Love

Nivedita.

Motivation 

                      Motivation is a single word with huge description within it.we all talk about inspiration,motivation and many things and we do have seen many examples where person get inspired or motivated by work or achievements of others. even they consider those as their role model and achieved their goals.but i never understood how people do it by seeing others and their work.

                  Motivation is not only for big or huge tasks but it can be as simple as doing work out for maintaining good health or it can be writing our documents in proper manner etc. friends here i will consider my own example, when i was 18 year old i had put on weight (may be 73 kgs) and my parents told me many things to do and even they told me some examples from which i may get motivated and go for exercise and diet, but nothing motivated me that time. suddenly one day i felt i need to reduces my weight and be healthy and to look good. so friends i felt motivation needs to come from within oneself. of-course  we do have other examples of inspiration but one should feel it first within themselves then only other's stories can guide us.

To some extent our surrounding and other peoples work  act as a secondary source of motivation but primary source is its us and within us.today let us send gratitude to all the secondary sources as well as primary source i.e. us for all our good work may be small or big doesn't matter. 

LOVE RS.

Being Good in the views of a friend

Hi Friends,

               We all are living in  this world with our own values and principles which seems to be correct for us but may not be correct with the perspective of other. sometimes those values and principles are not correct according to the people we spend time with or our loved ones.and like this we do hurt our loved ones by following our values as we do not want to let go of our values and we always want to be what we are really.

Sometimes the way of living this will help us and our loved ones because they know who we are and what we love and like so if they are really meant to be with us then they will stay else they will surely find people who can value their principles.here comes the honesty of being what we are and showing the other people real us and letting them to choose us or leave us.

Friends... If you love and care for a person then show them your true feelings and show them who you are really. Don't be fake to your loved ones and friends, it doesn't cost you a single pinny but it will fetch you real friends who love you as you are!!!! it really hurts if a person you believed and trusted suddenly changes with NO REASON and even if reason is there s/he never tells it to you. and he starts telling you reasons for not being with you and not responding to you. trust and love is very important for people to be together,if any one breaks then NO Relation can exists.

OK friends, where ever you people may be or with who ever you may be, be true to your loved ones. they will accept you no matter what because they love you unconditionally.

LOVE RS.